Life is indeed a teacher and it teaches so many things as we grow up. Every individual have learned life in their own way but nevertheless, those learnings and lessons are equally relevant and useful for all. As they say, “life is too short to learn everything from your own mistake, so learn from others,” it is always wise to listen to others and draw lessons from their life experience. So we have asked KMAG’ers to share their life lessons based on their own life experience.
The following are the 100 life lessons:
1. At times, life pushes you with so much intensity, almost like you are inside a pressure cooker. And, there is a limit to the limit to be resilient. After that, you either will release steam and transform to a stronger version of the self or, if you cannot withstand the pressure, you may explode. Even if you explode, you still transform. And this happens in different situations, personal as well as professional.
2. You learn more from the slips than from the winning trips .
3. Learn to be vulnerable. You, speaking your truth allows the other person to speak their truth. Nothing is important than a genuine human connection. Always strive for that. Never forget that the true essence of being human lies in empathy and compassion.
4. Sometimes letting it not be your way is the best way for it to be. Life has so many others ways for happiness you never knew existed.
5. You can’t please everyone, no matter how hard you try.
6. Everybody sees life in their own view. Do not try to change their view. Just go with the flow when dealing with individuals. Let them be and have a lot of patience with everything.
7. Doing the same deed as others did to you will eventually make you the same person.
8. Everything is temporary. Nothing is permanent. Do not get attached with anything. Just enjoy the flow.
9. Stop thinking you’re the centre of the universe coz’ nobody got time to think about you. Everyone is their own centre in their own universes. You’re the main character only in your story. To everyone else, you’re just a side character.
10. Group identity is for losers. Bear personal responsibility, have individual identity.
11. There is no free lunch.
12. Build a habit of investing. Start small. Begin from as early as your early 20s. Scale up slowly but scale up nevertheless. Set aside a certain amount each month and increase your investment by 10% every year. With the power of compounding and your own ironclad discipline, reap the reward 20 years later.
13. Maintain a good distance with toxic people.
14. No matter what you do, people gonna trash you.
15. Life is complex, dynamic and spontaneous. So trying to find a general way/formula to solve all problems will never workout.
16. Be a realist and not an idealist. Once you start accepting things, it’ll make you a lot peaceful.
17. Things don’t go as expected but still working on it continuously will definitely give results that are beyond one’s expectations.
18. You should be your first priority.
19. Certificates don’t sell, your technical knowledge sells. So don’t just study, explore more.
20. Nothing is more important than your health, so invest in good habits from as early as possible. As you grow up your good habits will compound overtime just like the good investment in stocks.
21. Always be confident to move from your comfortable zone to learn something new and different.
22. Respect others irrespective of what attire they are in.
23. If you don’t know something , admit it rather than convincing people with baseless logic.
24. Not to force anything in your life. Friendship, relationship, attention or even love. whatever flow flows, what crashes crashes. It has to be that way.
25. Life is unfair. Stop complaining.
26. Never believe anything..question everything u come across.
27. Facing and managing emotion is better than escaping and suppressing.
28. Never hesitate to quit the current job if you have a better opportunity. You don’t owe them anything.
29. Keep doing good. Other opinion and approvals doesn’t matter.
30. You will always laugh at silly past, which used to be a heartbreaking serious present during those times.
31. In different stages of life, we have many characters to support our growth; some support us to see us growing and some of them are there only to fulfill their own desires. It is not that easy to recognize people without practical experience. Try to read and understand people around you.
32. Make your happiness a priority.
33. No matter how serious you are about life, there are people who finds you funny and make fun of you.
34. To learn new, you have to unlearn old.
35. Believe yourself , be your own best friend , spend time with self , talk with self ,treat yourself because you’re the only yours.
36. Don’t do drugs.
37. Give it a time , everything will be fine.
38. Set your house in order before you criticize the world.
39. Never expect, work for it..!!!
40. Life is 1% what happens to you and 99% how you react to it.
50. Don’t mistake people’s opinion with knowledge or truth.
51. Outside your life, you are a story, in which you could be good or bad or nothing, based on impression that you have left to others.
52. People like you as long as you are not threat to them.
53. Live by law and order or die fixing the mess.
54. Don’t reinvent the wheel.
55. If you have to choose between freedom and security, choose freedom, because secured life in prison is worse than insecure life under blue sky.
56. Don’t be overtly attached with your parents or spouse or children even when they are wrong. You are neither helping them to realize and learn their weaknesses and mistakes nor you are helping yourself.
57. Listen to experiences more than hypothesis.
58. If you don’t learn to be polite, the rudeness in you will pop out anytime anywhere without your knowledge.
59. There is a huge influence of people you are surrounded by that includes your loved ones, friends, parents, siblings and media influences. The weaknesses and flaws in them must have got in you that even you may not have realized. Work on removing them from you.
60. Life is full of distraction and deviation. Don’t let them to make you forget your goals.
61. Don’t make life about settling. Make it about exploring.
62. If you make life all about pride and reputation, you will be the most loneliest person.
63. Don’t make a life decision to please others.
64. Get right advisors or get wrong road.
65. Good intention isn’t enough if you have poor communication skill.
66. Take rest when your body need it the most.
67. Every end is the new beginning.
68. All the Ups and downs is what keeps journey alive. Everything is worth living.
69. If you don`t try, you`ll never know. Don`t spend the rest of you`re life wondering what could have been.
70. Be involved without being attached in everything.
71. Do what you love or love what you do, if you truly want to be happy with what you do.
72. It’s not about how much resources you have. It’s about how resourceful you are with what you have. You are doing a lot does not mean you will be getting a lot more done. Don’t confuse movement with progress.
73. Simplify your life. Don’t complicate anything.
74. Try to see things that others can’t.
75. Don’t stress over things that you don’t have control over.
76. Everything in this world needs to be either earned or bought.
77. There is always a source behind anything said or done. Don’t go with what being said or done. Rather go with where it is coming from.
78. Be humble, be grounded, be respectful to anyone and everyone.
79. Choose your partner wisely.
80. Without financial independence, you are never truly free.
81. If you make any decision in life with full conviction, you will not feel bad or regret later in the future.
82. Acceptance leads to peace.
83. Don’t hesitate to ask for help.
84. Don’t be so confident about future based on the present. Absolutely no one knows what future holds.
85. People have many sides, but you mostly get to see only the side they want you to see.
86. Our judgement is highly flawed and bias, so don’t be so sure about anyone or anything.
87. Life is easy as long as you live by law of nature.
88. As long as you know what you are doing and why you are doing, just do it irrespective of what others are saying.
89. When you know where you want to reach, you will find a way.
90. What is right now, may turn wrong later. What is wrong now, may turn right later. What is right for one may be wrong for others. Right and wrong is very subjective and contextual, so do what is right for you but don’t expect everyone to live by that.
91. Learn to accept the differences and live will be filled with joy and peace and happiness.
92. Never get that easily influenced by opinion coming from inexperienced people.
93. You never look great by making others look small and insignificant.
94. If you don’t know something, just google. There are 1000s of answers to all your wonders and confusions.
95. Don’t waste your time over people and activities that don’t seem the connecting dots to your goals.
96. Everything is constantly changing and evolving. Go with it or be left behind.
97. Don’t hesitate to ask money for doing something for others.
98. If you like someone, let them know that. If you don’t like someone, never let them know that.
99. If someone does not like you for you being you, don’t try to win their heart or please them.
100. Know what you want from your life, know how to get that and work towards it. Everything else is secondary.
What motivates you every day to carry on your day-to-day life
We had asked the KMAG community to share what motivates them to carry on day-to-day life with a positive feeling and high hope. Amidst the challenging world, chaotic socioeconomy, and boring lifestyle, and negativity-charged social media, we wanted to gather motivations from our followers to inspire rests in need of some positivity and boosted energy. This is what we collected:
Every morning I wake up, I know there are people I am gonna meet, tasks that I am gonna do, things that I am gonna see. Every morning I know that all these people and things gonna teach me something new; I will be wiser than yesterday, more knowledgeable, and able to enjoy life a little more
All my short term and long term goals that I planned for a better future of me and my family
There are more problems to face. Today, this isn’t the last resort
Having breakfast over a table with family
The purpose of my life that I discovered. Since the time I realized my purpose, I made a pledge to myself that I will contribute something to promote the well-being of orphans and underprivileged children
The intention and ambition to be independent by all means
Urge to know things about life and society and wtf are we doing actually on earth
That you are alive. Many don’t take it as a big deal. Being alive is the greatest thing that is happening to you right now
Making myself capable to earn enough so that I can afford or buy anything without thinking twice
The fact that there are far bigger worries in the world than mine!
Might fall dead any moment
Pursuit of happiness is what motivates me
Hope of being a billionaire someday and do every possible good thjngs as much as i can. This keeps me alive
My hopes and dreams to make a lovely family just like my parents made us
I have a family that loves and supports me unconditionally, so it motivates me to go extra mile for them
I was destined to live this life ! And I am grateful for my existence !
The fact that I only have one life
What’s your drinking habit and pattern?
This is an anonymous survey, which means we will not be knowing your identity, so please be as honest as you can.
UPDATE: THIS SURVEY IS CLOSED
Drinking alcoholic beverages has been an important part of the Nepalese lifestyle. Historically and culturally, drinking used to be only limited to certain ethnic communities in Nepal but now it has been well accepted and practiced by almost all the communities in general. With that being said, still very less research has been done regarding drinking habit and pattern among Nepalese, which is important to know to understand how it has been consumed to formulate right policies and programs to limit it within healthy practice.
This survey is thus conducted to gain a better insight on people’s drinking habit and pattern and build a realistic perspective towards the topic. Thank you in advance for participating in this survey. Based on the survey, we will be writing an article and will be publishing through this website, so that everyone get to know Nepalese people’s drinking habit and pattern. If you have never consumed alcohol, you don’t need to participate in this survey.
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What reading slowly taught me about writing
In a TED talk, Jacqueline Woodson, an American writer of books for children and adolescents; best known for Miracle’s Boys, and her Newbery Honor-winning titles Brown Girl Dreaming, After Tupac and D Foster, Feathers, and Show Way; talked about why reading is important to be a writer, and more than that, why slow reading is important, without which how reading fails to dive into author’s world through their words.
The following is the transcript from the video. In a lyrical talk, she invites us to slow down and appreciate stories that take us places we never thought we’d go and introduce us to people we never thought we’d meet. “Isn’t that what this is all about — finding a way, at the end of the day, to not feel alone in this world, and a way to feel like we’ve changed it before we leave?” she asks.
A long time ago, there lived a Giant, a Selfish Giant, whose stunning garden was the most beautiful in all the land. One evening, this Giant came home and found all these children playing in his garden, and he became enraged. “My own garden is my own garden!” the Giant said. And he built this high wall around it. The author Oscar Wilde wrote the story of “The Selfish Giant” in 1888.
Almost a hundred years later, that Giant moved into my Brooklyn childhood and never left. I was raised in a religious family, and I grew up reading both the Bible and the Quran. The hours of reading, both religious and recreational, far outnumbered the hours of television-watching. Now, on any given day, you could find my siblings and I curled up in some part of our apartment reading, sometimes unhappily, because on summer days in New York City, the fire hydrant blasted, and to our immense jealousy, we could hear our friends down there playing in the gushing water, their absolute joy making its way up through our open windows. But I learned that the deeper I went into my books, the more time I took with each sentence, the less I heard the noise of the outside world. And so, unlike my siblings, who were racing through books, I read slowly — very, very slowly.
I was that child with her finger running beneath the words, until I was untaught to do this; told big kids don’t use their fingers. In third grade, we were made to sit with our hands folded on our desk, unclasping them only to turn the pages, then returning them to that position. Our teacher wasn’t being cruel. It was the 1970s, and her goal was to get us reading not just on grade level but far above it. And we were always being pushed to read faster. But in the quiet of my apartment, outside of my teacher’s gaze, I let my finger run beneath those words. And that Selfish Giant again told me his story, how he had felt betrayed by the kids sneaking into his garden, how he had built this high wall, and it did keep the children out, but a grey winter fell over his garden and just stayed and stayed.
With each rereading, I learned something new about the hard stones of the roads that the kids were forced to play on when they got expelled from the garden, about the gentleness of a small boy that appeared one day, and even about the Giant himself. Maybe his words weren’t rageful after all. Maybe they were a plea for empathy, for understanding. “My own garden is my own garden.”
Years later, I would learn of a writer named John Gardner who referred to this as the “fictive dream,” or the “dream of fiction,” and I would realize that this was where I was inside that book, spending time with the characters and the world that the author had created and invited me into. As a child, I knew that stories were meant to be savored, that stories wanted to be slow, and that some authors had spent months, maybe years, writing them. And my job as the reader — especially as the reader who wanted to one day become a writer — was to respect that narrative.
Long before there was a cable or the internet or even the telephone, there were people sharing ideas and information and memory through stories. It’s one of our earliest forms of connective technology. It was the story of something better down the Nile that sent the Egyptians moving along it, the story of a better way to preserve the dead that brought King Tut’s remains into the 21st century. And more than two million years ago, when the first humans began making tools from stone, someone must have said, “What if?” And someone else remembered the story. And whether they told it through words or gestures or drawings, it was passed down; remembered hit a hammer and hear its story.
The world is getting noisier. We’ve gone from boomboxes to Walkmen to portable CD players to iPods to any song we want, whenever we want it. We’ve gone from the four television channels of my childhood to the seeming infinity of cable and streaming. As technology moves us faster and faster through time and space, it seems to feel like story is getting pushed out of the way, mean, literally pushed out of the narrative. But even as our engagement with stories change, or the trappings around it morph from book to audio to Instagram to Snapchat, we must remember our finger beneath the words. Remember that story, regardless of the format, has always taken us to places we never thought we’d go, introduced us to people we never thought we’d meet and shown us worlds that we might have missed.
So as technology keeps moving faster and faster, I am good with something slower. My finger beneath the words has led me to a life of writing books for people of all ages, books meant to be read slowly, to be savored. My love for looking deeply and closely at the world, for putting my whole self into it, and by doing so, seeing the many, many possibilities of a narrative, turned out to be a gift, because taking my sweet time taught me everything I needed to know about writing. And writing taught me everything I needed to know about creating worlds where people could be seen and heard, where their experiences could be legitimized, and where my story, read or heard by another person, inspired something in them that became a connection between us, a conversation. And isn’t that what this is all about — finding a way, at the end of the day, to not feel alone in this world, and a way to feel like we’ve changed it before we leave? Stone to hammer, man to mummy, idea to story — and all of it, remembered.
Sometimes we read to understand the future. Sometimes we read to understand the past. We read to get lost, to forget the hard times we’re living in, and we read to remember those who came before us, who lived through something harder. I write for those same reasons. Before coming to Brooklyn, my family lived in Greenville, South Carolina, in a segregated neighborhood called Nicholtown. All of us there were the descendants of a people who had not been allowed to learn to read or write. Imagine that the danger of understanding how letters form words, the danger of words themselves, the danger of literate people and their stories. But against this backdrop of being threatened with death for holding onto a narrative, our stories didn’t die, because there is yet another story beneath that one. And this is how it has always worked.
For as long as we’ve been communicating, there’s been the layering to the narrative, the stories beneath the stories, and the ones beneath those. This is how the story has and will continue to survive. As I began to connect the dots that connected the way I learned to write and the way I learned to read to almost silenced people, I realized that my story was bigger and older, and deeper than I would ever be. And because of that, it will continue. Among these almost-silenced people, there were the ones who never learned to read. Their descendants, now generations out of enslavement, if well-off enough, had gone on to college, grad school, beyond. Some, like my grandmother and my siblings, seemed to be born reading, as though history stepped out of their way. Some, like my mother, hitched onto the Great Migration wagon — which was not actually a wagon — and kissed the South goodbye. But here is the story within that story those who left and those who stayed carried with them the history of a narrative, knew deeply that writing it down wasn’t the only way they could hold on to it, knew they could sit on their porches or their stoops at the end of a long day and spin a slow tale for their children. They knew they could sing their stories through the thick heat of picking cotton and harvesting tobacco, knew they could preach their stories and sew them into quilts, turn the most painful ones into something laughable, and through that laughter, exhale the history a country that tried again and again and again to steal their bodies, their spirit and their story.
So as a child, I learned to imagine an invisible finger taking me from word to word, from sentence to sentence, from ignorance to understanding. So as technology continues to speed ahead, I continue to read slowly, knowing that I am respecting the author’s work and the story’s lasting power. And I read slowly to drown out the noise and remember those who came before me, who were probably the first people who finally learned to control fire and circled their new power of flame and light and heat. And I read slowly to remember the Selfish Giant, how he finally tore that wall down and let the children run free through his garden. And I read slowly to pay homage to my ancestors, who were not allowed to read at all. They, too, must have circled fires, speaking softly of their dreams, their hopes, their futures. Each time we read, write or tell a story, we step inside their circle, and it remains unbroken. And the power of story lives on.