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Culture of Gratitude and appreciation

What is Gratitude and why it’s important for every individual and how it helps in creating a healthy and happy society?



Gratitude, or in simple term, thankfulness or gratefulness, is one of the greatest of virtues. As William James said, “the deepest craving of human nature is the need to be appreciated.” Humans generally do thing for their own pleasure and satisfaction or per their own need and goals; however, there is always a receiving end who benefits from the action. A singer sings for his/her own pleasure and satisfaction, but the receiving end gets the entertainment. A writer writes for his/her own reason but the receiving end gets the knowledge and perspective. A shopkeeper sells for his/her own reason but the receiving end gets the stuff. A social activist fights for the cause but beneficiaries of the victory are the victims.

The importance of gratitude culture is, it motivates and encourages the giving end and cultivates humility and humbleness in receiving end. When you say “thank you,” to a shopkeeper for selling you a bag of rice, he feels appreciated, motivated and encouraged and same time, you cultivate a culture within you to value everyone because of who you are able to get the thing, be it free or paid.

Gratitude works as a key to joy for both sides. Humans have been practicing gratitude since the beginning of humanity. That’s where all the thankfulness act and ritual to God came in to practice. Humans expressed their gratitude to God for the foods on table, for having the children, for having the fortune. Even many modern research and study has suggested that people who are more grateful have higher levels of subjective well-being. Grateful people are happier, less depressed, less stressed, and more satisfied with their lives and social relationships. That’s because people who express gratefulness to others for whatever they got or they have become have higher level of empathy and humility, which makes them less arrogant and obnoxious.

Think like this, there are two friends, Person A and Person B. Both of them are listening a song by Sajjan Raj Vaidhya. Person A holds an attitude of gratefulness to Sajjan Raj Vaidhya for composing songs and uploading them on YouTube so that he could listen and feel good. Person B holds an attitude that Sajjan Raj Vaidhya is doing for his own name and fame and there is nothing to feel grateful for. Just suck the benefit and forget. Who do you think is more happy in life?

In a society where gratitude is not a collective value, where there is no culture of appreciation, such society tends to be more arrogant, disconnected from each others, and less happy, as people from the receiving end lack humility and the giving end lack motivation. Think of a society as a family, where every one hesitates to appreciate each others work or effort; acts cold and numb versus a family where they express their gratitude actively, appreciate every work and effort and take a moment to thank and value each member for whatever they bring to the table. Which family do you want to belong to?

Gratitude also works as a positive reinforcement motivating to keep doing and get better with what they have been doing and been appreciated for. Put yourself in the shoes of writer or singer or teacher or social activist or even a shopkeeper and think how you will feel when someone says something like “thank you so much for doing it, because of which I am able to …..” Your self esteem will definitely boost and be more determined to get much better.


A society without the culture of appreciation and gratitude will only be hanging in lack of humility and motivation and driven only by self-centric attitude with zero regard and appreciation to others. There will be lack of acknowledgement of anyone’s importance and essence; no culture of valuing any effort and attempt by others and everyone judging everyone through shallow and narrow point of view, making it all about trading.

It does not take anything to express thank you or acknowledge gratefulness or drop a word of appreciation. Try it!

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Quick Read: Feel if you can’t heal




World is weird with so many shades of grey and somewhere in the shades, there lies weirdos, too hard to fix. Call them crazy, call them psycho, call them drama queen or call them bitch, but they are what they are. Wish they could fix them, but they know they can’t.

Maybe, they too wish to be “normal” like everybody else, who can control their thoughts and actions, can calculate and pretend, but no. If they could, they would not be weird in first place, would not get into trouble, get into controversy. Maybe they scream in their lonesome “why am I born like this?” but even that feeling does not last long as mood swings from one pole to another.

Some of the kind happen to be famous or popular for their talents or sheer luck, but then they are what they are.

“Oh! the poor soul, there goes again …pissing off fans and crowds”
Managers get tired, family gets embarrassed, turning off admirers and the “normal people”

Jim Morrison from the movie “The Doors” can be a perfect example. If you have not watched the movie, highly recommended.

It’s very hard for others to understand them except their loved ones or near ones. And to add ghee in the fire, there comes drugs, boozes, cigs and cannabis, messing up the already messed up head.

What others see is an arrogant, uncultured wild beast and bitch. Deep inside, however, they are burning with erratic moods every now and then, racing thoughts and clouded head. They hating themselves to live like an unpredictable clown; tried therapy, tried pills, but nothing seems working except for few days.

God knows, how many times they have cried out loud “How long to live like this??” inside an asylum that no body was told.

When you find one, be nice to them.

Okay now listen the song

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We are poor because we hate money



If you hate rich people, if you hate money, if you hate how economy works, you are destined to die poor,” a wise man once told.  

During my recent Bangalore visit, I got to meet some start-up founders.  One of them was a lady probably in her mid-20s. Her company is into digital marketing. They call themselves “branding experts” and they claim themselves to be “quite creative.” I went through couple of videos made by them and also couple of their works. They also do social media marketing. I asked, “how much do you guys charge for handling a page?” She said “depends…starts from 2 lakhs.” She employees 15+ people in her start-up.  

Met another team who runs a research company. They charge anywhere between 5-25 lakhs for conducting a market research.  Likewise, had also met entrepreneurs, business enthusiasts, freelancers. They all have similar stories, similar spirits and passion and they all are hungry for money, bold enough for money. 

By meeting them and listening and checking out their works, I didn’t find myself small or inferior, nor I find people from my hometown less creative or less talented, but I noticed there is something in them that we don’t have. That is, guts to throw numbers, guts to dream big numbers, guts to chase numbers. Personally, my heart would tremble to ask 6-digit fee for a consultancy or a month-long research and there they are, asking the number just for a social media handling.

By the time, they start their business, they are in few crore valuation. In a year or two, 10 cr company. In 5 years, 100 cr company. That’s the trend and target, they all are up to. On the way back home, I was thinking, why do we fear so much to dream big numbers? why do we tremble? why are we so cheap? why do we settle with peanuts? and many similar questions.  Maybe because we grew up thinking as if it’s insane to think big numbers, chase big numbers.  We label it with madness, greed, and what not all. Maybe in all these, I am somehow psychologically and culturally programmed to think big, dream big, ask big. In this mindblock and hesitation, I die.

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If you’re in your 20s, don’t live like in 30’s



If you are in your early 20s, you are young and generally speaking, you have at least another 5 years to live without worrying much about finance and familial responsibilities. See, this is not the time for you to run for money, to run for car and house. The time will come that you will have no option but to run for those things. You will be stuck with familial and social responsibilities, even if you don’t want to.  BUT, THIS IS NOT THE TIME.

This is the time for you to know people, to try, to experiment, to explore. The energy that you have at this age bracket won’t be same 5 years from now that you will realize only when you are nearing your 30.  So, I would say make best use of the energy that you have now, not to live like a 30-year-old person but like a 22-year-old, as you are. Your 30-year-old life anyway is there waiting for you.  But your 22-year-old life won’t be there.

Your 20s is the time for you to join new circle, new people, join start-ups, try building things, try creating things, try winning deals, try ruling markets, try this, try that, try everything. Even if it does not work out, you are young and you will be alright; not like in 30s, when if you mess up, your chance to grow further will shrink by half.

Take a chance, explore it. Don’t look for job in Facebook, job in Google, job in CG or NCell or NTC or some big corporate house, where you would feel secure, would earn better.  Instead, look for a job in start-ups, and make it next Facebook or Google or CG or NCell.  If you want to try your own, that’s even better.  How much ever you give for big companies, you will be still only known as employee. When you give your best for start-ups, you will be known as founding team, founding member. When the start-ups become big, your name will be in its history book, you pics will be in companies wall.

That’s the beauty of working with start-ups. You are just in your 20s, I repeat, don’t run for money. Run for a team that is worth investing your time and energy up on, that you can look back 5 years from now and shout “YES! WE MADE IT.” That sense of achievement, you will never feel in big companies nor job abroad, in same manner as you would feel when turning start-ups to next Facebook or Apple or another big corp.

One life, don’t waste it. One youthfulness, don’t settle too quick.

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