“Dad. you know, your friend, who gave me job, asked me to sleep with him. I tried ignoring him as I needed that job, but he would keep flirting and takinh advantage, so one day I gave up as I thought let it be, though I hated to do so, then it became a routine….he being well known business leader, I didn’t want to spoil anything and moreover, I cared about career and was just waiting for the right company to jump in. It was 5 years ago. I am going to speak about the incident.”
If that’s the case of your daughter, will your response be like “Chup laag, ahile aayera k natak ho yo…yetro barsa kehi nabhanikana?”
We sometimes find it hard to understand what is wrong and why is wrong, until it does not happen to us…so maybe God gave us a power to imagine, so that we can feel without experiencing.
Why do we ask questions?
Socrates utilized an educational method that focused on discovering answers by asking questions from his students. According to Plato, who was one of his students, Socrates believed that “the disciplined practice of thoughtful questioning enables the scholar/student to examine ideas and be able to determine the validity of those ideas.” In academia, it is called Socratic questioning. The art of Socratic questioning is intimately connected with critical thinking because the art of questioning is important to excellence of thought. Socrates argued for the necessity of probing individual knowledge, and acknowledging what one may not know or understand.
That’s on Socrates’ way of teaching taken from Wikipedia. Let’s talk about KMAG.
When we started the question segments on KMAG, we didn’t know anything about Socrates method of teaching. We started because we realized questioning is not our culture and we wanted to seed the questioning culture.
There was this one incident where we even spoke about.
The other day, we posted a question, “What is wrong in complimenting a woman for having nice breast or hip?” Responses were amazing. Thank you all. But there were some, who didn’t like the question. They deemed such kind of things should not be put for discussion.
…… there are kind of mindsets who don’t like anything being questioned if is quite attached to their sentiments or belief system . Be it Kumari, be it religion, be it ritual, be it culture or be it social norms. I used to wonder why. Then I recalled my childhood to till this moment. I remember my grand parents, my parents, my seniors, my teachers not liking being questioned their command or ideas. And I remember all the “pujas,” where a “baje” comes with a holy book, instructs to follow words by words, and rests follow quietly without questioning. Following without questioning is our culture. I realized. I learned about our feudal society — all the kings, Kajis and mukhiyas, and how you are not supposed to question their decisions, question their ideas, question their commands. We basically come from a society where questioning popular beliefs, questioning norms, questioning anything that could challenge majority’s belief system or hurt ego of those in power is WRONG, is UNACCEPTED. We are supposed to follow without reasoning, without questioning.
Why people here in power, people in privilege status don’t like being questioned? Why they don’t like their society, their norms, their beliefs being questioned? Digging down further, I realized if you give a chance for people to question, there forms a discourse and the discourse can challenge the status quo, if the alternate ideas or thoughts have better logical argument. Religion, ritual, those in power, traditionalist, they don’t like to be challenged. They don’t like to be replaced. So, they discourage the practice of questioning, so that they can feel safe.
The practice has been going on for many hundreds of years. That what is reflected in our grandparents, our parents, our teachers, our priests, our politicians, our bureaucrats’ attitude. And sadly, in some of us. This must change. Questioning does not bring chaos. It brings better reasoning, better logical views, that will lead to better concepts, better ideas, better answers. No matter how stupid a question sounds, it always opens a door to answers. Answers create disagreements. Disagreements create debates and discussion. End of the discourse, the most convincing one wins.
In similar context, we had written again on WHY DO WE QUESTION.
Comments as “bro, what are you smoking?” or “Are you high?” “what a silly question?” “why don’t you google instead” “stop asking stupid question” are reflection of our intolerance towards questioning culture, which they themselves don’t know because they too are the product of very same culture, where parents, where teachers, where managers get offended by questions. The hardwired mindset is still prevalent among our generation.
We sometimes even get comments like this on as simple question as “what does it feel like to be a parent…challenge of being a parent”
Not a parent yet but I am worried if my child became just like you Posting things on nonsense topics & surveying about nonsense things… You should go & get a life rather than having queries on fellow dramatic things.
That came from a girl who someday may become a mother.
Such intolerance towards questioning will never turn a child, who wonders why apple falls on ground and not towards sky, into Isaac Newton.
We have our own theory on why people are intolerant towards any question that triggers their deep insecurity or challenges their values/beliefs or poke their perception towards “what are silly questions.” In this post, we will not get there, as we have hinted our theories on earlier post on the topic. We are only giving you the pretexts to take you to the answer, “WHY DO KMAG ASK QUESTIONS.”
Our reasons are:
Have you checked our cover pic?
That is our guiding philosophy. One of the main reason we ask question is because we want to gather what people from our time have to say on different things and topics and subjects and issues. We don’t have a culture of documenting people’s voice, documenting present that humans from future could study. That is why we don’t know what people used to think and feel during the Rana Regime, during Panchyat. We don’t know what people used to think of Laxmi Prasad Devkota or Bhanubhakta. We only know few things based on things said by education and literature board.
This is what KMAG is trying to do — DOCUMENTING PEOPLE’S VOICE FROM OUR TIME.
It may look like stupid thing to ask “what do you think of Nawaraj Parajuli?” but those comments represent people’s view about him in 2020. When asked what’s your view on Sastodeal, those comments tell people’s view on Sastodeal in 2020 that someone from 2050 can come and read.
Likewise, we ask about economy, we ask about politics, we ask about relationship, we ask about anything and everything and those answers are there on Facebook ( some of them are published here in this website as well), as an attempt to document those voices from people of our time from this part of world. It may hold no value to us but for humans from future, this website, this facebook page gonna be a goldmine. Both of these things are here to stay forever, even though we all will be dead. Just like Buddha, just like Bhanubhakta, just like Socrates, there will be Motiram Bhatta or Plato coming to publish these scattered thoughts and ideas. All those researchers, sociologist, psychologists will be coming here to discover the social evolutionary pattern of world, which was not possible because humans from past didn’t leave anything behind for us to study.
KMAG is purpose driven and is here to stay forever as a library.
As said earlier, we don’t have a culture of questioning. Look at this post and read the comments and that’s the thing.
All those “bro what are you smoking?” “what a f* question?” all those billa-intended response to questions are the proofs that we don’t have a culture of questioning. We are here to kill that culture. We wanted people to get used to with all sorts of questions even if sounds silly or useless, so that no one hesitates to question why sky is blue, why winter is cold, why Kumari, why Janai. More common the questioning culture is, more the tolerant society, more the critical mass, more the progress.
Another flaws of our society is lacking the knowledge-sharing culture. We never had a culture of sharing what we know to others — blame it to lack of platform or medium or lack of motivation. You can read between the lines and the comments on the following post to know what we meant by that.
And also check this one
People from past always kept their knowledge within themselves and they died and so their knowledge along with them. This knowledge-sharing culture is what KMAG wants to sow. “Google it, instead of asking” isn’t something we didn’t know. We wanted our followers to answer so that in the process, they develop a habit of sharing their knowledge, sharing what they know. This habit developed in KMAG will get carried towards their everyday life, in other internet forum, in events, in offices; they may write blogs, write for papers. This is how culture gets born. So by asking questions that we could anyway find by googling, we are not being lazy but being purpose driven in creating a culture of knowledge sharing voluntarily. Also, as have said again and again:
By googling, only we will learn, but by creating a post, everyone will learn.
This one is not always the case but sometimes it is. We question because we want to spread ideas and thoughts without we saying anything, and instead saying through our audience. Sometimes, we instead of saying “if you are not happy with your married life, divorce and move on” we ask “what should be done if not happy with married life?” and we know the obvious answers that KMAG audience will give. And in KMAG community, comment section is very influencing and powerful. We have come across many comments stating “comments pade pachi mero mind change bhayo” (my mind is changed after reading comments here on page). So why to sound radical and controversial when you can simply make your audience spread your thoughts and ideas?
Being Socrates. We humans are capable of thinking rationally and think critically. Nepalese are humans too. If you have to ask any Nepali “do you think human can be god?” anyone can think critically and answer. But they will get pissed off if said anything like “calling Kumari God is nonsense” So best way to make people realize and discover truth is not by telling them the truth but by asking them questions and make them think.
Let’s take this post for example, which may look silly and bro-seems-high question
But actually, this question can make some people to think link “damn, if I have to think like pigeon there is no purpose of life, or think like any animal there is no purpose of life…so it’s human who makes up things like purpose of life because of their thinking..and in reality, there is never as such purpose of life“
And that was the real purpose of that post and not some engagement-generating intention or “admin was high.”
You see? Question can be very powerful tools to trigger your otherwise sleeping state or biased state.
KMAG does this often to make you think about stuffs that you would otherwise never think of.
Brain is like muscles. You need to keep moving it to get best out of it.
Under reason 6, there comes many other minor things, like we want to know our audience, we want to encourage them to open up, we want to help them to get to know each others, we want to do social experiment, we want to learn something from the intellects we have as followers, we want to psychoanalyze our audience, etc, which has its own significances and usefulness for our own business growth and personal development. Plus, when we see those Facebook pages from West, where people share their life, their stories, their personal things on relevant articles and videos in comment sections, sticking to the topic and subject, we wish to see that here in Nepali pages as well — People sharing their psychological problem in psychology related posts; people sharing their relationship, parenting, education, career, in respective topics, and not just random rants against politicians and government or some cringe memes out of context. And some of our questions are driven by the idea of creating such crowd and environment.
Kmag is a cave to us, is a HUGE CHART PAPER kept in a busy street, is a canvas, is a recorder, here to document voices of people from our time, their thoughts and ideas, and preserve that for humans from future, a picture of ourselves and our time to look back 30 years from now. Also, KMAG is a farmer sowing a seed of questioning culture, knowledge -haring culture, that someday it believes will be all over the hills and fields — the much needed plants in this land. KMAG is a mechanic who likes to activate blocked part of brains and a researcher who likes to experiment, learn and understand.
One day, we all will die, but KMAG? It is here to stay for generations to come, like a library, like a fossil, like a story teller, with new admins, new followers, new contributors.
That’s why we question. In question, all good things happen.
Thank you for being part of this adventurous journey of ours. You have no idea what a contribution you are making by taking your time out in engaging with our posts.
Corruption in Nepal: Unspoken Side
When it comes to corruption, we only talk about government level and often ignore corruption in corporate level and private firms.
Most people in Nepal when think of corruption, immediately think of government bodies and their employees and politicians in power.
That’s because our media and society have always focused. The wikipedia definition of corruption is “Corruption is a form of dishonesty or criminal offense undertaken by a person or organization entrusted with a position of authority, to acquire illicit benefit or abuse power for one’s private gain.” It didn’t say only for government bodies and their employees and politicians in power. If we breakdown Nepali term “Bhrastachar” for corruption, it means Bhrasta + Achar. Thus, anyone with “bhrasta achar” is bhrastachari. But since our media narrative and fight against corruption only involve government bodies, government employees and politicians in power, we as a society have made it all about those in civil and government service.
Many people may be surprised to learn that corruption exists in private sector as well; in banks, in private firms, in private schools and colleges and many more places.
There are many marketing head from banks and/or other big firms who ask for “cut” if you are to be provided advertisement. There are many operational in-charge, who ask for “cut” if you are to be given a contract for uniform or other works. Anyone in the business know how hard it is to get business in Nepal from big private firms if you are not willing to give the “cut” to the manager or unit head.
The other day, I was with an accountant from a restaurant and banquet and he was telling how teachers from private colleges ask to bill in higher price when they organize an event or seminar at his restaurant.
You may not believe this but even have found some organisation where one of the investors ask for “cut” for giving the business that his other partners should not know. Isn’t that sick?
These are just few examples that I can confidently share because I have personally witnessed and have heard. God knows, what all sorts of corruption happens in internal level. Maybe, leaking out inside information, maybe leaking out data, etc too happens in these shiny glossy private companies and firms.
Irony is, you can find them criticizing government employees and politicians for corruption through their social media posts and “teaguff.” Maybe, they are conditioned to think that what they do is not corruption — corruption is only when someone living in tax payers money does what they have doing.
You see corruption is everywhere and it’s the biggest pandemic that our economy is getting direct hit from. The other day a group of interior design was saying that they were to design a stall for an automobile show, which actual cost would be around 15 lakhs but they needed give the “cut” to the guy who got them the contract, so it was billed at 20 lakhs. The company who has to pay that money will naturally plan to incur the cost by passing it down to the consumer.
More you get deeper into the Nepal market, more you will realize that this country is not just ruined by government employees and politicians.
How can we drive an economy in such game, culture, practices? How can you fix a country where lives people with no morale, ethic and principle? How can we build a thriving private business world, where right under the nose of CEO, CMO can ask for cut, right behind the back of partners, a partner can ask for cut? How can we build work force high in morale and ethics with the teacher that asks for high-priced bills?
If you are one of them and reading this, please touch your conscience and do ask the questions. Understand this, until someone like you exist, this country will never be corruption free.
Social Media Tamasha
This post is created to show all sane minds the insanity that exists in our society that we often neglect or care less, as we often collectively think all our problems solely lie on politics and politicians and government body and institutions, whereas a country is beyond handful of politicians and their politics, few thousands of officers and institutions they lead.
Routine of Nepal Banda posts this
There a girl comments this
The comment, while writing this, has received 452 haha reactions and 86 replies. And, as I expanded the replies,
Immediate reply was
It goes on like this, as if some tamasha is going and every one is amused. They clearly have no guilt and remorse to harass her like this and those reacting haha are enjoying the harassment of a female publicly in a page with million followers. They have learned new term from Internet, “Gold Digger,” and they think their douchebaggery and harassment is justifiable.
She checks her Facebook after 1 hour just to see the maggots crawling on her comment.
What else she could say
She probably had not thought that within 1 hour, her one comment could get her this level of public humiliation.
Tamasha goes on
She makes a final comment stating she is not going to read all these filthy comments. She is clearly disheartened, disgusted, speechless and is choosing to leave the scene without responding, just like any victim. And there were usual victim blaming, “yesto comment garepachi yestai ho…sochera comment garnu parthyo (should have thought before commenting)”
The tamasha must be going on. There are more maggots there now inviting their friends to read the comments as for them, “it’s so much fun going on here.”
I don’t know what conclusion to make because this single incidence has so many messages and things to learn from. I won’t say these guys represent our society but these guys remind me that these people exist. Ironically, somewhere they must be saying “suicide is not the solution,” “respect women,” talking about bullying, talking about rape. I don’t know whom to blame, their upbringing, our education system, and they themselves.
No, I can’t change them nor you can by cursing them or shouting at them, because they in first place themselves are too blinded by their own defensive reasoning, but I just didn’t feel right to ignore them, to ignore this incident because these people at least should know that even though they are untouchable, unreachable, unknown but still they are being watched and disguised by sane minds for their insanity and filth.
As long as we close our eyes towards insanity and idiocy of people, no matter how hard we fight against political and ruling class, we will never accomplish a country and society that we want for our children to inherit.
p.s. Names and pictures are not blurred because they are not victim and well! they deserve it, so that they next time be careful on public forum while acting douche.