On the earlier post, KMAG published an article emphasizing on the need of cultivating a culture of openly talking about certain traits and characters that are reflection of troublesome and potential threats, while fighting against “violence against women.” The article basically tried to dig on psychological factors, along with cultural factors that are quite apparent yet we collectively ignore or hesitate to talk about. In response to the article, Dr. Neeti Aryal Khanal commented, “…Your explanation of violence as psychological problem of abuser is laughable in itself.”
I know her for her bold statement on her Facebook, especially related to gender and societal issues and I respect her for many other different reasons regardless of our differences.
However, I am turning this particular comment as an opportunity to express something that I have been deeply feeling regarding how we educated populace often fail in problem solving and why.
Let’s take Rape as a problem.
Rape happens for different reasons.
“Oh! my dad is DSP, I am untouchable.” Impunity reason.
“Oh! girls are made for sex. What is a big deal in having a forceful sex?” Cultural reason (misogyny).
“Nepal’s law. I don’t fear.” Weak law enforcement reason.
“I am too desperate and I can’t control my sexual urge.” Psychological reason.
“I enjoy raping. It makes me feel good.” Criminal reason.
You see, rape does not happen for one specific reason. Different people rape for different reasons (sometimes mixed of all). There are so many factors behind any incident. And if you are to look for a solution, you need to rightly understand what all are the factors involved. You need to take different approach for same problem with different factor.
Sadly, we are often too black and white while analyzing any problem. When you are too blind to think that there is only one factor for causing one specific problem, you will never find a solution, just like our political parties. “Oh! King is the reason for all our problems” and removed the king just to realize that’s not the sole reason. That’s a very good reference and lesson to learn from.
Anyone with bachelor level of education have conducted some kind of research or done assignment and must have learned how to analyze a problem. As taught in college, we need to take various factors into consideration to understand problem before we work towards the solution. Strangely, the very same assignment, we forget while in real world. We jump out of closet “faasi de!” as if problem is only with weak law enforcement. We demand “Kill the culture” as if that’s the only reason.
I strongly think now that this black and white thinking is one of the reasons why we never succeed to solve a problem. We become so obsessed with our idea of what could be the problem, that we don’t even think of other various factors involved. Why corruption? Because of this” Why poor? because of this. Why road accident? because of this” I mean, we really think there is always that one specific reason for that specific problem and nothing else. What will happen next? We chop off one head, just to realize there are other heads, just to be forever lost in the problem.
Instead, problem solving needs a scientific approach. What I meant by scientific approach is that we first identify a problem and think over all the possible causes and reasons. We take stats and analyze each case understanding factors involved. Then we try to understand the most common factor in all the all cases and we derive a solution that addresses that common factor, and then derive other factor-specific solutions.
That’s how an educated person is supposed to look at a problem and prescribe a solution. So many rape cases, so many acid attacks, so many domestic violence. How many times have our feminists actually have sat and segregated the case income-level wise, ethnicity wise, geography wise; how many times have they tried to look into a case apart from “patriarchy” angle? Of course, that is there and is expected to be one of the main reasons, but still have anyone ever tried to look from psychological factor? Not just feminist, but even our investigative agencies and bodies, media and civil society, I have never found them looking into a problem in much broader sense, analyzing layer by layer and rightly reaching to conclusion like a researcher does.
Anti-capitalists are too quick assign the blame to capitalist world.
Feminists are too quick assign the blame to patriarchy.
Activists are too quick to assign the blame to weak law enforcement and impunity.
I don’t know where it is coming from, because our education system has always taught us to never take a black and white approach to understand a problem and its causes. Maybe, it is coming from our politics, or from black and white media narratives, or our home or society.
Whatever, in this too-quick-to-assign-the-blame to something that we inherently hate or distaste, we have been failing to solve the problem, because problem has 100 heads and not just one head.
This is very important for every educated one out there to understand. What’s the difference between you the educated one and the porn-is-the-reason politician, otherwise.
p.s. This post is not about rape. Only taking rape as an example of discourse to imply how and why we fail in problem solving.
Youth migration: shrinking or swelling local
The ministry of youth and sports in its report data released on the occasion of
International Youth Day on August 13, 2017, revealed that 1,600 Nepali youth leave the
country for foreign employment each day and this number is nowhere close to slowing
Hundred years down the line, let’s imagine the youths migrate out of their villages or small towns. They do not lead the simple “gaule jiwan” as we call it. And they have stable incomes and they live with their families in a town or at least nearby a market. Can you picture a prosperous life for them? It can be said that they live a prosperous life with stable incomes and access to the market and facilities. But let’s take a moment to think about the village they were originally from.
From my recent experience of volunteering with Raleigh Nepal, it has been alarmingly established in my mind that Migration in Nepal is detrimental to the future of the country. I stayed in a semi-rural community of Dal Bhanjyang, Gorkha. The village had sparse demography, mostly comprising old people, women, and children. The village suffered from a large gap in human resources resulting from the migration of most young men and families. This gap created by the lack of active working people has affected the agricultural yield of the farm-based community. Many farmers left their cultivable land barren because they didn’t have enough helping hands while farming.
Another important aspect to be considered is not just the current lack of young people in the village but the future demography of the village. The already huge number of youths who have migrated to another country or place will most likely save up enough money to migrate to a place where they have a more comfortable life. On the other hand, there are thousands of youths who are planning to migrate in the future. So this rampant migration will ultimately displace families to a more facilitated location. Therefore in the span of a few decades when the now old generation will pass away, the current middle-age population will be exhausted of age, and the current new generation will be migrating and moving, these villages will be empty. The now middle-aged population is already working hard in the country and abroad to invest in their children. Either to send them to foreign employment or for their education. Which further perpetuates the migration of the newer generations into the cities away from villages.
From villages to towns, from towns to cities, and from cities to a foreign city. There is always a better place one can strive for. But at what cost are we striving for a comfortable life is the question. The bottom line could also come to causing a major shortage of agro-based families and causing problems of food security too.
Moreover, we need to internalize that these communities without the presence of an active young population can cause a deficit in the whole functioning of the society. Because it is the youths who are the torchbearers of the future and the ones who bring innovations and new ideas to communities. Nowadays, the villages in our country are facing a big gap in innovation. The children are growing up without having to look up to youths and families are separated.
Even though the situation seems to be distressing, we cannot deny that people in these villages have no other choice but to try to keep pace with the world that is innovating and changing. So when they cannot do that from their places, they opt for a bigger place. On the other hand, the ramifications of such choices may be too hard on the country. Therefore, decentralization and empowerment of youth in the local communities are a must.
The global pandemic and its strong grip on the Nepali communities have further worsened the employment situation in Nepal. Many migrant workers are already finding their way back to India for employment. “Those going back to India are among the poorest of the poor”, as mentioned in The Kathmandu Post. As some are attempting their way back to earn employment many young people are stranded abroad since they have not been able to find their way back home and have been stranded abroad.
American life, Nepali salary — does not work
I carry a phone, have a computer, decent pair of clothes and shoes. In my room, there is a TV hanging on wall, and in kitchen, a micro oven to warm my foods and refrigerator to preserve left over. To go around, I have a bike. I sometimes drop by cafe, which serves me coffee made from coffee machine. Love to watch movies and go to near by multiplex with cozy ambiance and lights and world-class sound system. Need to take my parents sometimes to doctors and they do the check-up using the modern equipment. A typical middle-class life I live. There are millions out there in this country with same pattern and possession.
From morning till I go to sleep, everything I consume aren’t made in Nepal. They are imported from some other countries. Even the internet I am using or electricity, the system behind is based on device and technologies made somewhere else. To share my thoughts, I have this blog, the domain and server, are too based in other countries. Those phone, those computer, those clothes and shoes, those TV and refrigerator, bike and coffee machine, or the medical equipment, are not manufactured keeping Nepalese people in mind. While setting the price, they didn’t think if a person from the poorest country can afford or not. They simply set a price that people with earning of 1000 dollars per month (at least) can afford.
How can you have a lifestyle of 2-3000 dollars per month with 500 dollars income?
Standard of living that most Nepalese thrive for is influenced by standard of living that of country from high GDP and we consume the products made for those people with average income of 2-3000 dollars per month. Irony, however, is we barely earn 500 dollars per month at best. How can you have a lifestyle of 2-3000 dollars per month with 500 dollars income? This is the conflicting zone most of us are living in. We want perfect things like that of from country with high GDP or we will laugh. Office needs to be perfect, house needs to perfect, vehicle needs to be perfect, lifestyle needs to be perfect, like as seen in videos made from US citizens or from other developed countries. We forget to realize that perfection comes with a price, that being Nepali is hard to afford.
But then who cares. Wife does not care, children don’t care, neighbors and relatives do not, nor friends. We are constantly judged for what we posses, how we pose and how we present ourselves, and it must be like that from Youtube or Bollywood insta or else we will be laughed. We will be judged for being poor, being below the standard.
In macro level, this is the struggle that most middle-class Nepalese are facing. First, there is an obligation of buying products like refrigerator, phone, TV, etc, as a necessity, made for people with 1000 dollars income, from a 300-500 dollar salary. Second, there is a cultural psyche to look better, stand out better. Thus, we will rather thrive to meet that standard than settle with our reality. Thriving to meet that standard means finding an income source of 2000-3000 dollars per month. First we try in genuine way, and if is not working, we look for hook and crook.
Be it PM, or president, or mayor or bank CEO, designer or call center employee, everyone is walking that struggle to fit in. Outside we all may pretend to adore and admire people living with their own ability and affordability, but deep inside we don’t value people who can’t live the standard. We don’t value celebrity that we can find travelling in local bus. We don’t value government website that can’t afford high speed. We don’t value PM’s web conference with poor resolution. We don’t value relatives in government office who can’t afford to send their children to good school and college. We don’t value CEO that looks “khate pate” because can’t afford branded clothes and shoes. I can go on. We in reality have no space or respect for those who fail to live and act matching the modern standard.
All the standard comes with a price, price that is designed keeping people from high GDP. So what the people from low GDP supposed to do? Simple, find a way to earn at least 2000-3000 dollars per month to enjoy that standard or live in your cave as you truly belong.
An old man once told me, “timiharu lie chahiyeko chha bikasit desh ko subidha, kamaunu chha garib desh ko talab. Ka milcha ani?. In other words, you can’t have american life with Nepali earning. Either go to America to have that life or find the american income here in Nepal.
That’s what happening in Nepal. Everyone is looking for a way to get to that income bracket — school, college, businesses, cafes, parlors, everyone — without which you can’t afford iPhone, you can’t afford coffee from coffee machine, you can’t afford Nike shoes, you can’t afford a vacation, you can’t afford TV at home, you simply can’t afford anything made somewhere keeping in mind 2000 dollars income bracket.
There is no way out. Deal with it.
Underpaid elected representatives and the consequences
No graphic designer wants to work for anything less than 25K salary. No programmers wants to work for anything less than 50K salary. Hire a marketing consultant to take care of your business marketing, s/he will not charge anything less than 50K.
A principal of a school take nothing less than 70-80K to lead the school. A CEO takes anywhere from 2 lakh and above to run a company. A bank CEO takes way way more.
Just try taking a decent flat in good locality, you will get nothing less than 35K. Want to take in a colony, will cost you nothing less than 40K.
To have a decent comfortable life financially, you need at least 2000 dollars of income, that you can send your children to good school, can take care of parents, can fulfill genuine needs of spouse and of self.
When your personal life is smooth with no guilt or regret or shame because of poor financial status, you are highly motivated, energetic and dedicated to your professional side. You must know that by now.
That’s the reality we live in.
Now think of a job, where you job responsibilities include waste management, infrastructure development, maintaining the social harmony, planning and executing projects, and salary offered is 60K.
That’s salary for a mayor.
I am sure no one with good experience and academic profile will take that job. Why should they when they deserve more and they can earn 3 times the amount? Only people who will take that job are those who can’t earn outside or the naive minds who have not tested the reality yet and are living in a bubble.
Salary of a PM is around 1.5 lakhs. A bank CEO gets 5 times that, whose job is just to take care of the bank and its few hundreds employee. And here, the person whose job is to manage the whole country and 3cr people gets barely 1500 dollar. HELLO!
Let’s for a while, flush off all the prejudice and hate towards elected representatives and think…think them as fellow human just like everyone of us, and ask, will we get best out of them by paying way way less?
We ended up in this situation because of our idealist concept “neta janata ko sewa garna ho….paisa kamaune bhaye jagir khaanu parthyo, business garnu parthyo” Our idea of leadership is Jogi-like figure who can sacrifice all the materialistic needs, compromise personal happiness and that of family, live that altruistic life, and we judge fellow human interested in politics and in public service based on those traits and characters. We look for that Jogi figure.
What we forget to realize is that, with that criteria, we will never attract someone who can lead bank, who can be country head of NGO/INGO, who are gold medalists. And instead will end up with good-for-nothing individuals to manage this country, manage our county, manager our city. And we wonder, why we only get a terrible incompetent person for the job. Because we set the criteria that attract only INCOMPETENTS and NAIVES.
A successful business man once told me, “if you don’t pay well, you will end up with bad team and with that bad team, you will never succeed. You should never be concerned about how fat paycheck is being taken. You should be concerned about are they doing what they are paid for. If you are paying them 15K, you will get 15K worth of work. You should not be complaining for them not doing 50K of work. If you want them to do 50K worth of work, you should know to pay them 50K.”
As a business consultant, I can relate that. I have seen many businesses going no where and the problem is in kind of team they have. To pay less, they hire freshers and dull employees and they wonder why their businesses are not growing.
I have also seen brightest and smartest indviduals failing to deliver a project because they took the project at very low cost, that when reality hit them, they lost the interest and the needed energy to deliver right.
The very same thing applies in country.
You don’t get Elon Musk in 200-dollar salary.
This realization comes with growing up. So may be it’s time for us to be realistic enough and not idealist, and speak for better paycheck, better facilities for our elected representatives, so that more bright and smart show interests. it’s time for us to acknowledge the fact that Mayor is a job, PM is a job, like CEO and Branch manager. Do you know that Ward Representatives don’t get salary??
We have messed up big time by chasing the idealist version of governance, which only has created more gossips, more lack of respects, more contents for media to taunt for them taking beggar way of sheltering in hotels, wearing gifted watch and shoes. What are they supposed to do with 60K salary?? Put yourself in that shoes and think. Money is the reality and we should not shy away from. Rather embrace it, articulate it, and get best out of. Pay best, pay enough that s/he can take care of her personal life without reaching out to donors and businesses, and then question if not performing per the amount paid.
We have been complaining a lot without ever thinking of what payment are they getting in return. It reminds me of a boss, who had so much of complaint against his employees but never thought from his side if he is paying enough to expect the result. He didn’t understand that you don’t get Elon Musk in 200 dollar salary.
Father of Singpore, Mr, Lee once said, ” Don’t underpay our ministers. To find able and committed men and women of integrity, willing to spend the prime of their lives, and going through the risky process of elections, we cannot underpay our ministers and argue that their sole reward should be their contribution to the public good.”
You want this country to be like Singapore? then start thinking like Mr. Lee.