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Social Media and Women’s Participation

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We know, equal participation of women in public discourse is very important to develop equality and strengthen democracy. With the advent of Internet, social media has proved to be an amazing platform to increase awareness and bridge gender disparity in present day. However, despite of equal opportunity, we get to see women’s involvement in public discourse on social media forums and platforms is still quite low. So we asked what could be the reason behind it and if they have you experienced any bad incident as such that discouraged them to speak up publicly?

Below are the few responses from our female audiences.

 

By  Reya Shreya Rai 

“Personally, I don’t think such is the case. I think you’re looking at the wrong places for such debate evidences. I have seen many articulate and thoughtful ladies in these platforms. Let’s talk about just Instagram for example for now. There are hundreds of pages that talk of equality, Brown girl problems, anti- casteism, aboriginal and immigrant problems and so on which are run by women. The admin and the followers actively debate and spread awareness based on these causes and consequences steadily. I know many of my friends themselves actively participate in posting and debating on issues including my mom on their own platforms.

I think the issue here is, you’re looking at the wrong places. There are many kinds of people with varying interests regardless of their sexual orientation but in every case, I think there are people of progressive mentality who actively engage in debates.
As for me, I find it useless most times to debate in social medias but I swallow my indifference and proceed to comment here when I deem it important.”

 

By Anusha Maharjan 

“Culturally we are taught to speak in manner thoughtfully with respect thinking about their family, society, and community from childhood so the base is already created for the women out there, speaking in public is also a matter of self confidence as well.”

 

 

By Heena Ghimire

“To be really honest, most of the women of upcoming generation or lets say the generation as a whole regardless of the gender do not care about such topics. And half of those who care are already into the works which is why we see so many changes in the city (just) and the other half are not having a proper platform to speak up or maybe communicate ideas. For example being hushed at home for keeping opinions on such topic because women need not show interest in politics and equality is what taught to every daughters at home so growing up their mentality becomes as if it’s a man’s conversation or man’s job. Some are way too scared to post their opinions on a given subject on the internet because lets face it we don’t have shortage of bullies online.
Men however, can be seen always and I repeat always having a conversation about business, work or the country’s political situation. The more you communicate your opinions the more ideas you generate on the given topic. Hence, men tend to have more voice than women in Nepalese society about equality, politics, democracy and rights.”

 

By SWeta Chalise

“We live in a place where if one chooses to speak less then their presence is not entertained. We tend to speak more than we listen. In the process of learning, listening is more important. Also, speaking unwanted serves no good. So personally I prefer listening more than speaking. Also, if you speak make sure you say something worth hearing.”

By Somika Shrestha

“When you take current statistics, there is vast difference in the chart between genders. It is quite obvious coz most of the today’s social personalities or media person had long history, run through male dominant period. But currently young ladies outnumber the case, be it debate, public speeches or any public event,including women centered pageant shows. There are numbers platforms which encourages the voices to come forward. Thus we can clearly expect quite a change in future.
This, is prediction.
Now, let’s come to present. When I see young girls so empowered, I realize how vocal ladies are. We see, generally in our daily life women rarely feel reluctant to speak up her opinion and discomfort, despite of many refrains. They are appreciated less though that cause them lower their voice so many later turn silent. And for the ladies public speakers who are fierce and bold, they face reality check , they belong to such society where women make most compromises in name of family including her career. So what seen today fades tomorrow. Lets hope such context change.
And so I disagree, that its insecurities or fear that has made the difference, for its not gender based but mutual. We have plenty of platforms now, parents are so aware to empower their children (I won’t say only daughters), world is turning competitive, and ladies are turning fierce, so we can hope for equal part of make and females in coming days.”

 

By Änu Maharjan

“Oh many times, that actually starts from your home basically when man are raised like they are the control freak and woman have to be the submissive!! Changing the stereotypes is hard when whole mindset is polluted!!”

 

 

 

By Sashi Bhandari

“If a woman express her views, people doubt if that is her own opinion. I guess, relatives asking too much questions might be the reason.”

 

By Sony Joshi 

“Well for me, I have always been vocal on matters which I think are important. But having said so, I have been replied back by some “Man” who think (to quote) I am just a girl who should keep my opinions to myself and go shopping!!” That was funny to me. And so I neglected. But in some cases, commenting or posting something somewhere results in unwanted messages and friend requests. Which might not be a big deal. But as a girl/woman, my/our profile being visited by unknown men is sometimes uncomfortable, (also dangerous sometimes). There are other reasons like “Arule k sochha” wala attitude because of the society standards( wen it comes to sensitive topics) and also the fact that in discussions on some topics, guys tend to swear rather very soon using disgusting languages which ultimately leads to deleting one’s comment.”

 

By Kristina R L Rana

“Few topics can be uncomfortable to comment on… If we do then someone (family, relatives) will screenshot it and later show it-” did u comment this or that… you are like open book blah blah…. so I type the comment, read it and erase it.” 

 

By Sheetal Khadka

“Reason is people dislike strong minded women.. Its the society where no matter what women are taught to be subtle and polite.men on the other hand are given free pass for everything.woman are judged by fellow women and men, so when u r being judged for everything it’s natural to step back though u have a better perspective and solution.”

 

 


The above answers on the question were collected from our Facebook page, Kaagmandu Magazine. For more answers you can visit the post HERE.  Also, you can add your comments there.  Best comments get published here.

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Survey: How much do you earn in Nepal

This income survey is to be participated only by those residing in Nepal. If you don’t reside in Nepal, people DO NOT PARTICIPATE IN THIS SURVEY

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This survey is conducted to know income pattern among Nepalese youth and also to learn current pay scale in different sectors and professions. Unlike many other countries, income pattern in Nepal has not been that known, making it hard to rightly understand or judge job market and available opportunities in Nepal, and to break this obscurity, we are conducting this survey, that you can participate anonymously.

We plan to publish this survey and make it public, so that it can be quite handy for all to realistically value themselves in job market and also can be a good clue for those interested in Nepal’s economy and job market and for scholars to base a comparative report.

Please understand that your false answer can give false conclusion, so please either participate genuinely or just skip.

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What is your biggest weakness?

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No one is perfect. We all have our own strengths and weaknesses but we don’t like to talk about our weaknesses, admit or acknowledge them, because we feel vulnerable, think will undermine our value, and may challenge our self esteem and comfort feeling.

But it’s very important to be honest with self once in while, so this post is kind of therapeutic project for you to pen down your weaknesses.

It is an anonymous form, so feel free to be as honest and bold as you could be with yourself.

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What kind of person one should think twice before dating

The list below is prepared from collected comments and not an opinion of KMAG

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We had asked KMAG community about the kind of person one should not date, based on their past experience and the following were the answers. Make a note and save yourself.

1. Someone who is just hideous and doesn’t disclose any aspect of his life. 

2. Someone who is inconsiderate of your feelings because what they think is a small thing might not be just a small thing for you after all.

3. Never date someone who overthink everything. Also, makes thing complicated for no reason.

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4. One who doesn’t understand the quote ‘Actions speak louder than words’, doesn’t know how easy it is to be honest in every little things, doesn’t know the meaning of responsibility and most importantly doesn’t like ‘F.R.I.E.N.D.S’ 

5. Never date a control freak.

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6.  Someone who has high opinion of himself/herself, the one who thinks they are right and others as wrong .Being selfish and boasting about themselves is natural but some take it to another level. They dont just have extra self confidence but they also completely ignore others ideas and thoughts.

7. Never date a hard-to-deal narcissistic and a boastful person. Also don’t date somebody who is afraid to unfold their inner emotions and feelings to you.

8. Don’t date or fall in love with Narcissistic and self obsessed person.

9. The crazy one.

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10. Not to date someone who expects you to understand him/her without any sort of communication.

11. The worst one to date is a good person who hasn’t yet moved on from their past or still feel stuck and responsible for their past relationship and partner and cannot establish boundaries with them.

12. If you have to think twice to date someone, never date them.

13.  Someone who hears you but doesn’t listen 

14. Some one with an ego should never be dated…everyone has flaws but the one that doesn’t accept his or her flaws shouldnt be dated.

15. If someone falls head over heels almost at first glance, who commits way too sooner, is into your appearance or any such superficial stuffs, narrow minded and sexist/racist or any such -ist

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16. Person who doesn’t love him/herself.

17. Someone who is always afraid of not being in a relationship. 

18. Who doesn’t rethink, just reloads when presented with an opinion that doesn’t match their own. Also, self-victimizing hypocrites.

19. Fixed mindset

20. Bad attitude

21. Someone who think that they’re always right, superior and refuse to listen to anyone else.

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22. Not committed to oneself or to the relationship, lazy, takes relationship like granted, eccentric, egotistical..

However, forget not:

  • There isn’t any checklist when it comes to dating a person. In this world people don’t even know themselves, forget about knowing the others. If you get to “know” (if you happen to) someone that is only possible with time. If we could distinguish the traits and characters so easily based on the traits and character they show, the world would be a great place. Everything is much rooted in our culture. We are taught to be nicer to everyone, which I think is absurd. We should teach everyone to be who they are! Just because you are accustomed to be nicer to everyone, you can’t put a boundary to yourself when you should warn or create firewall against certain people. On the contrary, the person opposite always thinks you are nicer to him/her so he/she can still approach. You should teach everyone a no is a NO, not like in every no there is a hidden Yes. This is all Bollywood nonsense. Girls should be brave enough to say yes to a guy should they find him a good (I wouldn’t say a perfect- it doesn’t exist) match. Not like- ‘lets see how far he can try’. And boys should learn that a No is a NO.. no further ragging and following.
  • If only one could distinguish these- Yes and No, everything will be normal. Others traits and characters you will learn with time.
  • Cheers!

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