If I have to generalise Nepalese girls, I will say, just like many other guys, they are deeply carved by patriarchal system.

Most Nepalese girls fear making mistakes. They are groomed in “chori mancheko jiwan, izzat gayo bhane khattam huncha” that everything they touch, everything they do, everyone they befriend, their foremost angle to look at will be about “Izzat.” This makes them very hyper cautious and scared that they don’t like to make first move and would rather choose to go with crowd than take a risk and face that “barbad jiwan.”

No matter what they have studied and what influences they get from media, they remain the society and family deeply rooted in the patriarchal values that expect them to be submissive, soft, and passive. This is reflected in their classroom life, in their professional life and every other aspects of life.

Their mind is programmed to think that a woman’s ultimate destiny is to get married, have babies, that they are entrapped in that set plans. Their life roadmap is so much guided by “by this age, I will get married…by this age will have baby.” Their self assessment and obsession thus is also heavily gravitated on whether they will be a desired bride or not.

It’s not like they enjoy living by those hard-wired concepts fed to them by family and society, but they just don’t know how to get out of that values and concepts. They are too afraid to pick up their own fights, and thus mostly wish someone fight for them to set them free and let live their life per their wishes and desires. Thus, they deeply admire and respects anyone who would speak on their behalf, and fight their fights.

With all that, they have become mix of “what I am expected to be” and “what I want to be.”

Generally speaking, Nepalese girls are not feminists. Not at all. They don’t even know how actually things should be because when they listen to their parents, they feel parents are right, when they listen to their partner (husband/bf), they find him right, when they come to social media, social media seems right. Thus, generally speaking, they are quite gullible. And all that makes them “Nepalese woman,” not Indian, not Chinese, not American, but Nepalese woman — fruit fallen not too far from the tree.

If I have to generalise Nepalese girls, I will say, just like many other guys, they are deeply carved by patriarchal system.

Most Nepalese girls fear making mistakes. They are groomed in “chori mancheko jiwan, izzat gayo bhane khattam huncha” that everything they touch, everything they do, everyone they befriend, their foremost angle to look at will be about “Izzat.” This makes them very hyper cautious and scared that they don’t like to make first move and would rather choose to go with crowd than take a risk and face that “barbad jiwan.”

No matter what they have studied and what influences they get from media, they remain the society and family deeply rooted in the patriarchal values that expect them to be submissive, soft, and passive. This is reflected in their classroom life, in their professional life and every other aspects of life.

Their mind is programmed to think that a woman’s ultimate destiny is to get married, have babies, that they are entrapped in that set plans. Their life roadmap is so much guided by “by this age, I will get married…by this age will have baby.” Their self assessment and obsession thus is also heavily gravitated on whether they will be a desired bride or not.

It’s not like they enjoy living by those hard-wired concepts fed to them by family and society, but they just don’t know how to get out of that values and concepts. They are too afraid to pick up their own fights, and thus mostly wish someone fight for them to set them free and let live their life per their wishes and desires. Thus, they deeply admire and respects anyone who would speak on their behalf, and fight their fights.

With all that, they have become mix of “what I am expected to be” and “what I want to be.”

Generally speaking, Nepalese girls are not feminists. Not at all. They don’t even know how actually things should be because when they listen to their parents, they feel parents are right, when they listen to their partner (husband/bf), they find him right, when they come to social media, social media seems right. Thus, generally speaking, they are quite gullible. And all that makes them “Nepalese woman,” not Indian, not Chinese, not American, but Nepalese woman — fruit fallen not too far from the tree.

In a patriarchal society, it’s not just women who are judged on their acts but men too. Society is conditioned to think that certain roles can be done by women only, and some only by men. For instance, society judges heavily if a man chooses to be a stay-at-home dad, because it’s not the specified gender role of a “Man” to be ‘nurturing’.
So, there might be many things that men want to do, but cannot, because of the fear that we as a society will laugh at them or judge them for it. In order to know, that we are conducting this anonymous survey on the title and later make an article out of it.

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