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7 Signs Of Shallow People



Shallow people are the last in the list of people that I would like to hang around or build any kind of relationship with nor I would hire or team up with.  To me, they are synonym of ignorant, synonym of judgmental. that A-hole, that bitch, that “Dukhi Aatma” who has superficial opinion on everyone and everything.  They have this very narrow definition of people and world, who judge you instantly, a perfect example of jerk, a shortsightedness brain damanged, who live in present and can think only of present.  They are called shallow because they lack depth in their thought process.
I sum up shallow people in these 7 points.

1.  They are stereotypical 

Stereotypical people are the kind that have world views and perspectives based on popular belief and sayings in society and circle they belong to.  Let’s take Nepali society for reference.  “Bahuns are greedy.”  “Mongolians are ‘matwali.’ ”  “Biharis are con.”  “Foreigners are sex obsessed.” These are few examples of stereotypes that exist in Nepali society.  For whatever reasons that these stereotypes came into existence, truth is it’s a broad-generalisation and is completely wrong to do so.  Shallow people are very stereotypical.  “That guy is Bahun? oh, leave it, am not going to do business with him…they are so conning.”  “I don’t like to date Muslim guy.  They are so narrow minded.”  Some examples on how shallow people talk.

2.  They are very materialistic

They value physical properties, assets, gadgets, devices, apparels, or anything that is material over non-material things like intellectuality, wisdoms, knowledges, etc.  For example, a guy with iPhone 6s, wearing branded clothes, who rides around in expensive car is more valued by shallow people than a guy with great knowledge and wisdom and spirituality.  Shallow people get easily carried away with expensive stuffs, exotic and elite places.  They praise somebody for materials they own.  They enjoy and appreciate you if you gift them materialistic stuffs but will bore to death if you do deep talk.

3.  They are very judgmental

Being judgemental means building a strong opinion about somebody instantly without any proof or validations or verifications.  “I met this girl in a party and she is such a slut”  “His English sucks.  He surely is a college drop out.”  “He goes around in public vehicle.  He surely got no money.”  Life is no all sunshine and rainbow.  Sometime we may meet somebody in wrong circumstances.  Sometime we may meet somebody who does not walk the regular road.  It needs time to understand any human and their activities.  You cannot just pass judgments just because you felt so at that point in time.  This is what shallow people do.  They are too quick to pass judgment.

4.  They put physical attractiveness top in the list

For them, teacher should be good looking to enjoy the class.  For them, friends should be good looking to hang around.  For them, partner should be always at his/her best.  They are just so so obsessed with how one should look, what height, what weight, what color he/she must have.  Anyone that doesn’t meet her/her definition of “physically attractive,” they think are to be ignored, disrespected, devalued.  Shallow people are just not taught that there are all kinds of humans in world, still equally capable, equally good, equally helpful and generous.  You know you are hanging with shallow people if they pass comment on somebody’s looks and physical traits.  They often bitch about those that they don’t find physically attractive and often praise those they find physically attractive.

5.  They totally suck in GK and IQ

Well, whatever mentioned above is a result of lack of broad knowledge and understanding of diverse nature of world and depths, along with poor intelligence effecting thought process and decision making.  You just ask them any basic general questions and they know nothing about.  Their head is just filled with opinions and gossips and narrow definitions and perspectives fed by TV and family and their kinds.  

6.  They are labile in thought process

Your belief dictates your actions, your belief defines your values.  A belief system is a paradigm of a human hooking to which a person discovers values and principals based on which the person move furthers, interprets worlds and philosophies.  Shallow people just don’t have any belief system.  They keep changing their beliefs per the influences.  One moment they are conservative when influenced by conservatives and another moment they are liberals if influenced by liberalism.  This labile nature in their thoughts and belief process is pretty prominent in shallow people.

7.  They suffer from shortsightedness

Since shallow people lack depths in decision making and interpreting, they just can’t calculate any long-term consequences of their present actions, nor they really care.  They just float in present.  Their priorities, their attitudes, their concerns are all momentary.

These shallow people are worst to date with, worst to plan anything with.  Kind of like living with Identity crisis, living without purpose, lost and confused.   No one can fix them but time itself.  Until then, I prefer to engage less….stay away from.

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Bygones are bygones, right?
So why do we get pulled back by something that happened in the past? Why do we feel down for a reason that we already left way back in time?
Maybe because of a defect that we have-  “the past effect” –auto playing a bad memory. This is a serious defect that we have.
We are having a nice, relaxed time, worrying about nothing, but then a twist arrives. Something starts happening inside us. We start having visuals. Voices start playing inside our ‘now not so calm’ mind. The visuals and sounds repeat. They keep on playing in a loop. We feel heavy. Something has suddenly being placed over us. Then we start thinking, “why did I do that?”, “what was I thinking?”, “I had a big mouth. Why I needed to open it?”, “I was just making a fool out of myself” and the list of thoughts go on and on. Then we snap out of it, “What am I doing? Relax!”
The visuals go dim and the sound starts fading.
But the great defect… We just jump right into memory and start cursing ourselves again. Now that we have jumped right into the play, feeling relaxed and calm is not going to be that easy. Escaping out of the play is a maze created by the devil himself.
“I am here at my porch… Lying down… Looking at the blue ocean water with soft sea breeze hitting my body…  And I argued with her for no reason and hurt her three years ago. Even though I was forgiven as I realized my mistake right away and she might not even remember the incident, why did I do that? What on earth had happened to me?”
The past effect- we keep on dwelling in the past and slap ourselves with guilt, shame and anxiety which are not even supposed to be there sometimes. Why do we have guilt for something that happened long ago and for which we have been pardoned maybe by the ‘almighty God’ himself?
This defect needs to be fixed.


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Part 1: Letter To My Daughter From Future



Hey Baby,

Welcome to the world.

I always wanted to have a baby girl and getting you is second best thing happened after your mom.  Much love.

I am writing you from the year 2016, long before you were born.  I don’t know about your world, but daddy’s world is crazy.  I have been working quite hard so that by the time I marry your mom, I must be capable enough to keep her happy and prepare for you and together, give best life to you.

But then, to make wish come true, there must be an action, there must be a determination.  You gotta pursue your goal, run with time.  It’s definitely not easy but then you keep me motivated — the distant future where my daughter will be coming to this world, and I don’t want to settle anything less than becoming her hero.

Daddy’s world is kind of stressful.  It’s lost in greed, stuck in political correctness, struggling to find new paradigms; human intelligence is judged based on income made; human bondings, love and empathy, coordination and cooperation are quite rare lately.  Despite of all, finding a way to survive, living uncompromised, getting works done, and keep moving on, has been life here.  That’s daddy’s life too but with your mom in life, things don’t look stressful.

Amidst all, I think of you.  I wonder what kind of world my daughter must be coming to live her life.  That makes me more responsible, more determined, more motivated to make this world a better place, just like many dads and moms out there working on making this world a better place so that no children from tomorrow have to pay for our shortsightedness and blunders.

I am sure your world is better now.  Our karma can’t go waste.

Okay, baby.  First day in this world.  I don’t want to write too many things and bore you.  This much for this time.  When you will be reading this, you will be already in your teen.  We will be talking on this then with mama and and our dog next to us.  It gonna be fun.

Today in distant future, you are born.  I hence will call you Nellie, meaning  sweet, beautiful girl, intelligent, creative.  That’s your name.  Hope, you will like it.  Your mama and me have already liked it.

Love you Nellie,
Your Daddy,

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